bdsm Archives

Sex Diaries from Chawl Life: Belan, Chappal, & Other Kinks

Bondage using nylon sarees, some light spanking using a chappal, and a bit of butt play using the belan might sound like kinky sex acts to some. But in the confines of chawl living, it’s life as usual.

Damian D'souza June 29, 2016

Love and Sex

Opposites Distract: What Happens When Your Partner and You Can’t Agree on the Choice of Porn?

I’m someone who wants her escape erotica to look like the Mills & Boons version from her teenage years. Gentle, loving, slow and sensuous. My partner, unfortunately, belongs to the other end of the porno spectrum. He likes his porn to be brutal; the more depraved it is, the better he enjoys it.

Anonymous June 18, 2016

Gender

Lust Stories: Erotic Novels are Where Indian Girls Get the Sex Education Their Parents Are Too Timid to Give

When I was growing up, it was easier and more socially acceptable for men to gain access to erotic media in the form of magazines and videos because their introduction to adulthood was celebrated. However, for women, puberty came with concealment: of sexuality, breasts, and acne. Erotic fiction masquerading as “romance literature” then became the medium of instruction for many women.

Sahej Marwah May 9, 2016

Gender

Kink Gone Wrong: The Big BDSM Blindspot that Enables Abuse

Hollywood star Armie Hammer’s alleged cannibalism fetish caused another meme fest on Twitter, but the accusations of assault made by multiple women should make us question why we are so afraid to call out abuse, when it is masquerading as kink.

Nalini Nair April 8, 2016