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Buddha Mil Gaya… Why Does the Thought of Old People With Sex Lives Make Us Cringe?

In our movies like in real life, we expect lovers to be young and restless. Indian psyche tutors us that men and women beyond 50 do not need a sexual dialogue or depiction. Aged people and their desires, as a Made in Heaven episode showed us, make us cringe.

Aarti Shetty March 22, 2016

Relationships

How Polyamory Saved me from the Lingering Trauma of an Abusive Relationship

When I turned to polyamory it wasn’t to explore connections, but possibly to get over the trauma of early exclusive relationships that were defined by skewed ideas of possession and jealousy.

Shweta Sangtani March 21, 2016

Pop Culture

Bollywood Romances Don’t Work the Way They Used To

On paper, Brahmastra had every right to think it would revive the larger-than-life romance. The fact that none of the Ranbir Kapoor-Alia Bhatt spark translates on screen says a lot about mainstream Hindi cinema’s dated ideas, and the modern viewer’s demand for nuance.

Takshi Mehta March 20, 2016

Love and Sex

The Secret Pleasures of a Boring Relationship

Pop culture conditions us to see spontaneity as the true sign of romance. Except the pressure to be cool, and with it, and switched on all the friggin’ time is impossibly exhausting.

Aditya Bhalla March 18, 2016

Books

What is Love?: Aastha Atray Banan Decrypts the L-Word in her Latest Release

Aastha Atray Banan’s “The L-Word” is a deep dive into the world of modern dating. From left swipes to long distance relationships to polyamory – this collection of gyaan coupled with anecdotes decrypts what “love” is in today’s times.

Arré Bench March 18, 2016

Pop Culture

How Game of Thrones Made Me Lose Faith in the Idea of Love

Game of Thrones has painted perhaps the glummest picture of love ever conceived in popular culture. Love does not last or make us better persons. Instead, it corrupts, handicaps, and burdens as much as any other responsibility in the world.

Manik Sharma March 17, 2016

Love and Sex

Beyond People and Relationships: This is my Modern Love Story about Mumbai

Convention dictates that love manifests in terms of the people we choose to be with but for somebody like me, it is the freedom of not having or wanting to make that choice that has felt the more liberating. Like Prime Video’s ‘Raat Raani’ (part of Modern Love Mumbai) I have found love in moments, inanimate objects and the many ways Mumbai both challenges and supports you. For it is perhaps the only city where you can feel loved without being defined by it.

Jagruti Verma March 15, 2016

Technology

You Used to Call Me on My Landline: Remembering Hotline Bling of the ’90s

Twenty years ago in India, there was one box-like device with numbers on it that bonded families together like a viewing of Hum Saath Saath Hain. The landline had a wire that kept you rooted – but it could also set you free if you chose to be unavailable.

Yash Pawaskar March 14, 2016

Love and Sex

My Night With a Carpenter: How Homosexuality Breaks the Class Barrier

In Bombay, it’s a class issue to get this far with a carpenter, but some of my friends have kinks – secretly inviting daily wage labourers home for a sex fantasy to be fulfilled. Autorickshaw drivers get lucky all the time, and sometimes even manage to steal valuables and never get reported.

Manish Gaekwad March 10, 2016

Bollywood

Badhaai Ho Review: Why Should the Sex Lives of Indian Parents Be a Secret?

Badhaai Ho is a delightful comedy that exposes society’s hypocrisy toward sex. It underlines our unwillingness to view our parents as sexual beings, effectively asking, “Can Indians acknowledge love and intimacy only when it is young?”

Poulomi Das March 10, 2016