Love and Sex Archives - Page 13 of 15

The Lure of Vicarious Dating for Committed Couples

Vicarious dating operates on many levels, from swiping through a friend’s Tinder to replying to texts on their behalf. It’s the act of flexing long unused seduction muscles to find a mate not for yourself, but somebody else.

Aditya Bhalla March 23, 2016

Love and Sex

Buddha Mil Gaya… Why Does the Thought of Old People With Sex Lives Make Us Cringe?

In our movies like in real life, we expect lovers to be young and restless. Indian psyche tutors us that men and women beyond 50 do not need a sexual dialogue or depiction. Aged people and their desires, as a Made in Heaven episode showed us, make us cringe.

Aarti Shetty March 22, 2016

Love and Sex

The Secret Pleasures of a Boring Relationship

Pop culture conditions us to see spontaneity as the true sign of romance. Except the pressure to be cool, and with it, and switched on all the friggin’ time is impossibly exhausting.

Aditya Bhalla March 18, 2016

Love and Sex

Kya Ek Ladka Aur Ek Ladki Kabhi IRL Dost Nahi Ho Sakte?

Indian children are taught many cardinal lessons, like touching our grandparents’ feet and returning dabbas to mom in pristine condition. The prime one is that girls and boys can never be friends. As a girl with seven close male friends, I’m often the centre of curiosity and judgment.

Shreya Ramakrishnan March 18, 2016

Love and Sex

Congratulations Millennials, You’ve Now Killed The Wedding Proposal

A long-forgotten classmate announces he’s getting hitched, and from that point on, it’s likes, camera, action. Social media has turned the simple proposal into an affair more elaborate than the Royal Wedding and Modiji’s inauguration ceremony put together.

Dushyant Shekhawat March 17, 2016

Love and Sex

My Tinder Bio: Not Here to Mother 20-Somethings

As a single Indian woman in my late 30s on Tinder, I’m a rare breed. I recognise “u up” as the millennial mating call. But I draw the line at “I’m really into older women” because that’s Indian guyspeak for “Please be my substitute momma.”

Ramya Pandyan March 17, 2016

Love and Sex

Beyond People and Relationships: This is my Modern Love Story about Mumbai

Convention dictates that love manifests in terms of the people we choose to be with but for somebody like me, it is the freedom of not having or wanting to make that choice that has felt the more liberating. Like Prime Video’s ‘Raat Raani’ (part of Modern Love Mumbai) I have found love in moments, inanimate objects and the many ways Mumbai both challenges and supports you. For it is perhaps the only city where you can feel loved without being defined by it.

Jagruti Verma March 15, 2016

Love and Sex

My Night With a Carpenter: How Homosexuality Breaks the Class Barrier

In Bombay, it’s a class issue to get this far with a carpenter, but some of my friends have kinks – secretly inviting daily wage labourers home for a sex fantasy to be fulfilled. Autorickshaw drivers get lucky all the time, and sometimes even manage to steal valuables and never get reported.

Manish Gaekwad March 10, 2016

Love and Sex

Fantastic Bisexual Characters and Where to Find Them in Indian Cinema

Watching queer characters on screen helped me alleviate some of my queer anxiety. Radha and Sita from Fire, are not the only bisexual characters portrayed on Indian screens. There’s the almost-marriage in Four More Shots Please! and Sonu Ke Titu Ki Sweety is as queer as they come.

Suryatapa Mukherjee March 8, 2016

Love and Sex

Everyday I’m Cuddlin’: The Secret to a Healthy Relationship is Lying in Your Partner’s Arms

No condom can prevent you from catching feels. And despite our Tinder generation’s collective aversion to long term-romances, most of us are still just looking for a pair of non-judgey arms to fall asleep in.

Jackie Thakkar March 8, 2016