Copy, Paste, and Marry: Don’t All Shaadis Look the Same These Days?

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Copy, Paste, and Marry: Don’t All Shaadis Look the Same These Days?

Illustration: Shruti Yatam

Even as cricketer Jasprit Bumrah married anchor Sanjana Ganesan this week, there were two other weddings that I was closely following. After all, it’s always shaadi season in India. One was of a school friend, now married to the love of her life, while the other was an acquaintance, someone I know more virtually than IRL. Frankly, judging solely by the pictures and videos that were being circulated on social media, I couldn’t tell the three weddings apart. All the three shaadis had the *same* tropes – the only difference was that one might have cost several crores.

Now, hear me out. I know the Jasprit-Sanjana wedding was in Goa and had it not been for the pandemic, it would have been in Tuscany or some place more exotic just like the other power couple Virushka. I also know that the gorgeous bride and groom wore Sabyasachi and were colour-coordinated, not very different from Virat and Anuskha and Deepika and Ranveer.

They kept the ceremonies a private affair, and when they shared photographs with the world, everyone lapped them up. Yes, it was all done in great taste and no commoner could possibly dream of such a wedding.

But doesn’t every wedding that you see on Facebook or Instagram, or attend for that matter, tick these or similar parameters? My school friend got married at a dreamy resort in Udaipur, looking as pretty as the sunset in the beautiful Rajasthani city. She wore a designer lehenga as well. Their wedding too had a cringey hashtag that clumsily mashed the bride and groom’s names. And the couple even had a pre-wedding shoot in one of the capital’s many heritage monument complexes.

The other acquaintance from Instagram, went a step ahead (though definitely a few steps behind DeepVeer or Virushka). Not only did she get married at a Goa resort with purple as their “love theme”, they even had a pyjama party, a sort of mixed bachelor/bachelorette soiree that was carefully documented for its carefree moments, and curated splendidly for social media.

Whether you are a celebrity or a commoner, the urge to have pretty photographs that indicate a beautiful, happy, content life, is within us all.

So, with all due respect for all celebrities getting married, excuse me if I don’t go gaga over your nuptials. Yes, the wedding makes for amazing eye candy for a spot, we’ll probably make mental notes from the outfits for our local masterji, but really, it’s a story we’ve seen before where only the celebs keep changing. In some cases, even the sets (read Goa) don’t change.

At the end of what seemed to be the last day of festivities for all the three couples, each of them shared beautiful photographs of their special day across platforms. Be it Jasprit and Sanjana who managed a super private wedding and teased the world with just some amazing photos, or the people I know who posed for “together forever” photos and looked just as dreamy and in love as the cricketing couple.

So sure, congrats to the newest lovebirds for taking the plunge, but I fear our celebrity weddings will have to work harder from now on – because there is no novelty left that Aakash and Neha from East Delhi or Jogeshwari West aren’t already recreating. The lovely lass with chudas dangling from her wrists as she looks loving at her husband, could be Sandhya or Sunita – or it could be Sanjana. The effervescent groom who can’t stop laughing because he looks like he can’t believe his luck at who he has managed to marry, could be Aseem or Vikram – or it could be Jasprit.

The same tropes are now everywhere – the dreamy destinations, the handsome guys in bandhgalas, the sari-clad classy beauties playfully horsing around… I think I really have seen it all.

Like every modern malaise or minor complaint, we can blame social media for this sense of tedium. Whether you are a celebrity or a commoner, the urge to have pretty photographs that indicate a beautiful, happy, content life, is within us all. In fact, it is in the nature of this beast to induce anxiety. For was it even a wedding if there are no “candid” photos to prove it?

With all due respect for all celebrities getting married, excuse me if I don’t go gaga over your nuptials.

And then, just like Geet from Jab We Met, several of us have shaadi aspirations, of elaborate weddings where we have thought of every detail numerous times. And everytime we attend a grand one, it only makes us want a better, dreamier one. Which is why Deepika’s designer chunri that read “saubhagyawati bhava” has today been toppled in Karol Bagh market by Sanjana’s floral lehenga.

I’ll tell you what I am looking forward to – a celebrity court wedding and that too in denims. Or a ceremony where the celeb’s favourite pets are allowed, a la Kaley Cuoco. Or a function that celebrates Mother Nature while also the union of two souls. That’s something more of us could get behind.

This is an updated version of a story published earlier.

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