Dating is believed to be a precursor to marriage. Sometimes, people get married within months of dating each other. At other times, it can take years before one makes the plunge. However, a 26-year-old woman from Zambia has had enough. She has sued her boyfriend for wasting her time and not proposing marriage after eight years of dating.
— New York Post (@nypost) December 9, 2020
Gertrude Ngoma had been dating Herbert Salaliki for over eight years. Like a Bollywood hero in a rom-com movie, the guy kept promising that he would marry her sometime in the future. Fed up with this uncertain timeline, she decided to take things to court.
According to a report by Kenyan news portal Tuko, she told a court in Zambia that she feels her partner is not serious about the relationship. “He has never been serious, that is why I bought him to court because I deserve to know the way forward and our future,” Gertrude was quoted as saying.
According to Tuko, 26-year-old Gertrude Ngoma told a Zambian court that she was already tired of waiting to get married to her boyfriend, Herbert Salaliki, 28. | via @philstarlife https://t.co/xhpLpzKBPu pic.twitter.com/rsZ8tpDnEa
— The Philippine Star (@PhilippineStar) December 10, 2020
The couple has a child and the boyfriend reportedly even handled dowry payment. However, Salaliki defended himself saying that he is not in a financial position to afford a wedding, and to add insult to injury, accused Ngoma of not giving him sufficient attention in their relationship.
The case’s judge, Evelyn Nalwize, reportedly told Ngoma that the court could not do anything for her as there was no formal marriage, Zambian news site Mwebantu reported. One pities the judge who finds himself in the middle of all this!
😁😁😁😢😢😢Times Now: Woman sues boyfriend for wasting time – dating for 8 years without proposing marriage.https://t.co/3QHatxo37Z
— Muralee Sure (@MuraleeSure) December 9, 2020
One person’s tragedy is another person’s comedy, as social media users weighed in on their relationship. The internet was split, with some blaming the guy for being commitment-phobic, and others accusing the woman of forcing him into marriage. Then, there were also those who pitied the child and advised him to sue both the parents when he grows older.
I don’t get why some women stay with their boyfriend for so long…he’s a man child ,he’s not gonna commit,Its been 8 years ..dump him and move on with your life.
— 🕎Big Pretty Brown Eyes✡️🎃👻 (@CaliCourtnee) December 10, 2020
Taking your boyfriend to court to find out what your future will be together is probably not the best approach. Those crazy kids!
— Dave Rils (@DRils) December 9, 2020
And that's going to make him propose? Run dude
— Rob! (@RobElCapitan) December 10, 2020
Well they're off to a good start! pic.twitter.com/RDsbGzFTJV
— President-Elect SILENCED CINDER🇺🇸❤️🤍💙 (@CensoredCinder) December 10, 2020
“Who’s the idiot here?” asked one user on Twitter.
Who’s the idiot here? https://t.co/4DXxiIWKfs
— KayGee1 (@Kgoldberg71) December 10, 2020
I hope the kid grows up to sue them both for not using a condom and he having to be born to two big nincompoops.⚖️ https://t.co/ENN4hSJnEI
— Olivia from Apple Support (@HSAddict697) December 9, 2020
If “not being serious about a relationship” was a parameter based on which Indians could go to court, then our already burdened courts would only be discussing relationship issues between couples all day. However, we have our own whacky issues to deal with.
A few months back, a woman from Sambhal district of Uttar Pradesh sought a divorce from her husband on the grounds that “he loves her too much and doesn’t fight with her”. The Sharia court was baffled and the cleric rejected her plea calling it frivolous.
— National Herald (@NH_India) August 21, 2020
As the old adage goes, love is blind. And sometimes, even bereft of logic and common sense.