Why You Should Swipe Right on Promiscuity Before Marriage

Love and Sex

Why You Should Swipe Right on Promiscuity Before Marriage

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t’s a tall order to have sex with the same person for more years than our ancestors ever hoped to live,” writes Karin Jones in her astute New York Times Modern Love essay. It’s a scathing take on modern romance and hints at monogamy being a mere societal construct.

I didn’t agree with Ms Jones until my school friend Ajay and I met up for drinks recently. After the fourth, he confided in me about having thoughts of cheating on his wife, Maya. I almost spat out my drink because for as long as I have known them, the two have served as the living, breathing epitome of #CoupleGoalz for our squad.

College sweethearts, Ajay and Maya had a solid seven-year courtship. So while the rest of our gang’s early 20s comprised petty break ups, casual hook ups, and levels of promiscuity that would put Hugh Hefner to shame, Ajay and Maya were already talking kundalis. The couple paid no heed to the 1987 Mötley Crüe classic and conveniently traded in their ticket to “ride on the wild side” in favour of jumping into holy matrimony. Before Maya, Ajay’s most intimate encounter was in ninth grade and involved clumsily getting to second base with a girl from our math tuition.