Sexcuse Me, Please

Love and Sex

Sexcuse Me, Please

Illustration: Akshita Monga


s a woman and a half-hearted adult, sex poses a weird dichotomy: I want it and I don’t want it. I don’t have a low libido, I’m not a prude, I don’t have a bad body image (I have great self-esteem, in fact). Maybe I’m plain tired, exhausted, and I really don’t feel like “werkin it”. So here’s a secret. Sometimes women just don’t want sex and there’s absolutely no good reason other than the fact that they don’t want it. Capiche?

I have my own sisterhood of the travelling I-don’t-feel-like-taking-my-pants-off on WhatsApp. The worst part of “no mood, no sex” is having to tell the guy that you’re not interested in a good romp without damning his sense of self and sending him straight to therapy. Men are fragile like that.