Do Best Friends Make Good Baes?

Love and Sex

Do Best Friends Make Good Baes?

Illustration: Akshita Monga


n the year 1989, India embarked on a spiritual journey. Mohnish Bhel of sanskaari brother fame, proclaimed in Maine Pyaar Kiya, “Ek ladka aur ladki kabhi dost nahi hote”. He was roundly panned for it in the film – but the panning was more because he followed it up with some really bad alliterative dialogue involving “kapkapati raatein” and “bhadakti aag.” However, that same year, when Billy Crystal told his bestie Meg Ryan in Harry Met Sally, “What I’m saying is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way,” we applauded him.

After these two cultural milestones, movie after movie, book after book, song after song, fucked up the concept of a platonic friendship (special shout out to Dawson’s Creek). Popular culture began incepting the idea of sexual-tension-with-opposite-sex in the deep recesses of our innocent minds for the proverbial low-hanging narrative fruit. All because we didn’t call bullshit on Billy Crystal, movie studios and TV programming heads got more stoked about the idea of these “sexually charged friendships” that would later yield Kuch Kuch Hota Hai. That movie turned every mohalla ke perfectly platonic Rahul and Anjali into raging lovers overnight. Then came How I Met Your Mother in which Ted Mosby basically tells his kids over eight seasons that he never wanted to meet their mother because all his life he only wanted to bone his best friend.