The Post-Break-Up Confession: Honesty is the Worst Policy

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The Post-Break-Up Confession: Honesty is the Worst Policy

Illustration: Akshita Monga


mutual break up is a lot like the queer characters in JK  Rowling’s books – imaginary, and a product of abject hearsay. The fact that break ups can never be mutual is also one of those life-altering, indispensable insights that you learn the hard way – after never-ending stages of optimism coupled with some more doses of denial.

Like many victims fooled by this preposterous idea, I too believed that two people could “cordially” part ways for not being good enough for each other despite liking each other. So last year, when I parted with someone I loved for almost three years, I was confident of our transition into friendly acquaintances, instead of instant strangers who unfriended each other when the time of death on the relationship was called. The fact that we weren’t doing one of those overnight break ups but one of those well-discussed things that had been in the offing for a few months, further elevated our chances of being those exes every couple envied. Promises of being frank were made and declarations of not losing touch were sincerely repeated and we parted ways.