{"id":852,"date":"2016-07-04T10:04:44","date_gmt":"2016-07-04T10:04:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/13.201.39.237\/?p=852"},"modified":"2016-07-04T10:04:44","modified_gmt":"2016-07-04T10:04:44","slug":"facebook-tinder-grindr-snapchat-instagram-whatsapp-uber-gay-lgbt-homosexuality-technosexual","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/?p=852","title":{"rendered":"Grindr and My Tales of Technosexual Love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"container page-content\">\n\n<p><span class=\"dropcap\">3<\/span><\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n\n<strong> a.m. <\/strong><br\/>My phone chirps. It is more effective than an alarm. <em>A ping on Grindr! <\/em>I check my notifications, ignoring WhatsApp, Facebook and Instagram \u2013 who needs friends right now? Six Grindr messages. Damn, I\u2019m sexy. I scroll: Ugly, Ugly, Average, Hideous, Cute, Ugly. Why do I always attract these freaks? I look at the cutie\u2019s profile: tall, boyishly handsome, winking at me. I send him a, \u201cHello there, beautiful\u201d in response and a shirtless pic for good measure. Gotta show off them guns.\n\nI open Tinder. Four new matches, all rather dateable (doable). I rattle off a volley of heys and hellos: They will respond. Imma play it cool. I finish my pressing business and fall asleep.\n\n<strong>7 a.m. <\/strong><br\/>I\u2019m in the shower, trying to figure out my hairstyle for the day. I grab my phone and take a selfie \u2013 smouldering eyes, towel-clad. This would look great on Tinder! I upload it with three filters masking my smile lines, acne, and dark skin. Guys are def gonna fall for this one. My late-night Tinder matches have messaged back. Meh, they all seem boring now that I\u2019m awake. Pass. I swipe about fifty profiles left and right. New meat for a new day! My Grindr boy has still not logged in. Catfish? :O\n\n<strong>12 p.m. <\/strong><br\/>Finally matched with a sexy guy on Tinder. My luck is turning! I send him a message: \u201cHey gorgeous, new to Mumbai? Wanna catch up?\u201d Bold of me to directly ask him out but hey he\u2019s only here for a few days. Tinder burps: \u201cHey man, sure let\u2019s meet at Theobroma in Colaba at 7 p.m.?\u201d Pastries on a first date; what is he, 12? I reserve my judgement: \u201cSure, sounds good.\u201d\n\n<strong>12:30 p.m. <\/strong><br\/>Grindr boy has finally responded with an unsavoury pic of his junk. If this had been 3 a.m., I\u2019d have been out of bed and outside his door in an hour. I ignore his message. He sends a few more \u201cYou theres?\u201d before giving up and blocking me. Some nerve, who does he think he is, Ranveer Singh? I waste a few minutes checking out Ranveer Singh.\n\n<strong>4 p.m. <\/strong><br\/>I\u2019ve spent my afternoon stalking my Tinder date for tonight. His Insta was linked on his profile, I feel like a hacker lol. I rifle through his photos looking for reasons to find him unattractive: a bad angle, no filters, anything! This guy has his bases covered. Stunning pics of him surfing, dancing, travelling, he even looks adorable reading a book! I look at his Facebook: well-spoken, loves pets, everything I need in a man (especially those interesting fabric contours in his pool selfies). Can\u2019t wait!\n\n<strong>6 p.m. <\/strong><br\/>My Uber just called. I look myself over in the mirror, take a couple of selfies cos why not and head out. On the way to Theobroma, I check my Grindr and Tinder again. New messages, new matches. I sift and separate: Two more potential dates or FWBs. I decide not to set up any meets tonight; I have a handsome man waiting for me after all! I close all my apps and send him a WhatsApp: \u201comw, see you in a bit :*\u201d\n<blockquote class=\"quote--center\"><p>Instead of seeking validation from a few people, we desire it from everyone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<strong>9 p.m. <\/strong><br\/>He\u2019s in my bed.\n\n<strong>10 p.m. <\/strong><br\/>He\u2019s putting his pants on. I\u2019m torn between feelings of loss and contentment. Maybe all I needed was release? He definitely didn\u2019t seem interested in more. I hear that familiar chirp come from his pocket. He pulls out his phone, dashes out a quick text, and tells me he has to leave. <em>You slut.<\/em> I rush him out the door and slam it angrily. Is this all men want?!\n\n<strong>11 p.m. <\/strong><br\/>Post-shower, I\u2019m cuddled up in bed. Is this really the way I want to find a partner? Handsome strangers, one-time dates, and kiss kiss bang bang? The forlorn hope that one day this will turn into something meaningful?\n\nWhy are we so wound up in our technology \u2013 sharing our bodies with our gadgets, physically and figuratively? Staring at my silent phone, I realise that for technosexuals like us, the potential we see in digital, photoshopped lovers is more pleasurable than actually interacting with them. I collect matches on Tinder, you know? I travel to various cities faking my GPS and swipe away. I have over 3,000 matches. Three men want to pound my brains out. I respond to none of them: They are merely decorative badges of accomplishment.\n\nInstead of seeking validation from a few people, we desire it from everyone. <em>Please, internet stranger, like my new pictures on Instagram, I made it just so you could smile\/laugh\/be horny!<\/em> But even without Tinder, haven\u2019t we always been this way? Whores for universal adoration?\n\nNow it\u2019s just easier. I have sext buddies on Kik and Snapchat and Skype whom I discover online and enchant into my fap sessions. They send me pictures of their cocks and asses and bodies in positions I choose and they demand in kind. But we ensure our faces are never seen. We tell each other it\u2019s just to be safe and it\u2019s true; I have had unflattering pics of me plastered on Tumblr in some shady Indian Dudes &#038; Nudes blog.\n\nBut to be honest, we do it so it doesn\u2019t get personal. I don\u2019t want to see you as a person, and I don\u2019t have time to ask about your education or job or mother. Just give me the dick pic and let me cum! Instant gratification FTW.\n\nWe don\u2019t want or need steady partners. All our brute urges are satisfied by the internet. All we need is a competent AI sex doll. Romance is dead, Hallmark is out of business. The machines are rising.\n\n<strong>12 a.m. <\/strong><br\/>My phone chirps.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For technosexuals, the potential of digital, photoshopped lovers is more pleasurable than actual interaction with them. 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