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A<\/span>t get-togethers with old friends and acquaintances, you may have noticed a creature that is as intriguing as he is vile. He is a mix of misogyny, <\/p>homophobia<\/span><\/a>, and has a distinctly desi superiority complex. He is the one saying stuff like \u201cBang her, bro\u201d and \u201cYou look like a fag.\u201d This, ladies and gentlemen, is the Desi Frat Boy, an Indian version of the American frat boy, who we\u2019ve come to identify with obnoxious behaviour and a penchant for SUVs and Abercrombie. \u00a0<\/span>\n\nOur desi counterpart somehow manages to be even more obnoxious without having been part of any fraternity. You know him from your primary school days: He\u2019s the guy who\u2019d count up to 20 instead of 100 during his \u201cden\u201d at chhupan chhupai. When it would be his turn to hide, he\u2019d probably sneak off, leaving you looking for him until you were tired and cranky.<\/span>\n\nWhen you reached your tweens, he was the one who\u2019d stick chewing gum on your chair as a joke, or worse, hold a pen, tip up on the chair, just as you were about to sit. If you try to account for it now, you\u2019ll realise that throughout school, he has ripped you off of at least \u20b91000 worth of stationery because he never carried his pencils and erasers and didn\u2019t think to return yours.<\/span>\n\nWhile playing <\/span>galli cricket<\/span><\/a>, he\u2019s the kind of guy who will bat first and then run home when it\u2019s his turn with the ball. When you decide to have a match with another group, he\u2019ll throw a very public tantrum because he wants to open the batting, even though he is barely good enough to bat at No 11. These are early signs. As the Desi Frat Boy turns 16 or 17 (an age at which his mental development ceases), things get a little more difficult to handle.<\/span>\n\nGifted with entitlement, the Desi Frat Boy takes the saying \u201cthe personal is universal\u201d a little too seriously and believes that his opinions are facts. His pack \u2013 the dudebros \u2013 has a huge hand in encouraging this behaviour. They\u2019ve never really understood what opinion means. When confronted with a PoV contrary to his \u2013 like <\/span>The Dark Knight<\/span><\/i> is not the best film ever made \u2013 the Desi Frat Boy makes an expression similar to one <\/span>Salman Khan<\/span><\/a> makes while trying to think of a word with three syllables.<\/span>\n

If you make a joke at his expense, he suddenly turns angsty, behaving as if the whole world is against him<\/blockquote>\nThe Desi Frat Boy gets his sense of superiority from his Class 10 and 12 scores in math and science. He has a huge chip on his shoulder for having studied science; he has only derision for anyone who has studied the liberal arts. But he often displays contradictory behaviour. While watching <\/span>Fight Club<\/span><\/i>, the Desi Frat Boy experiences pleasure that is quite similar to an arousal, and, in some cases, an ejaculation. You may wonder if he believes that films are made by people who study math and science.<\/span>\n\nEvery now and then, the Desi Frat Boy mansplains and talks to women like they\u2019re five-year-olds who need to be humoured. But a more distinctive trait he has is \u201cmathsplaining\u201d \u2013 explaining to a group of adults that surge fares on<\/span> Uber<\/span><\/a> and Ola are a result of something called \u201cdemand and supply\u201d, as if it\u2019s a concept only someone with a Masters in Economics is aware of. Naturally, the Desi Frat Boy\u2019s favourite TV shows are <\/span>Entourage<\/span><\/i> and <\/span>Californication<\/span><\/i>. He claims it\u2019s because they contain the most nudity and sex, but it\u2019s more because of the normalisation of the <\/span>male gaze<\/span><\/a>, misogyny, and homophobia. For the most part, though, he believes that TV is for \u201csissies,\u201d because <\/span>real men<\/span><\/a> go out, chug beer, and score chicks in their free time.<\/span>\n\nThe Desi Frat Boy and his sense of entitlement makes him humourless. If you make a joke at his expense, he suddenly turns angsty, behaving as if the whole world is against him (much like Bhaijaan). How dare you attack something as fragile as his ego? In such situations, his <\/span>dudebros<\/span><\/a> step in to treat him like their five-year-old raja beta. How will he survive if not mollycoddled?<\/span>\n\nOne can only guess why the Desi Frat Boy is the way he is. Perhaps an extremely patriarchal upbringing, where machismo was applauded and femininity mocked. Perhaps growing up with older brothers who beat and bullied him, making him feel the need to go on the offensive with his peers so that he wouldn\u2019t be the butt of all jokes. Or perhaps a combination of both.<\/span>\n\nDespite such discernible traits, the Desi Frat Boy hides in plain sight because ingrained patriarchy has ensured that most of us aren\u2019t woke enough to see the signs of <\/span>toxic masculinity<\/span><\/a>. It helps that he\u2019s always surrounded by apologists, making excuses for his behaviour. He doesn\u2019t seem to have trouble finding dudebros, or even women to date. Every time you learn he\u2019s in a relationship, you feel a wave of sympathy for the woman he is going out with, but not before you remember the line directed at Johnny \u201cDrama\u201d Chase from <\/span>Entourage<\/span><\/i>: \u201cSomeone went out with him?\u201d<\/span>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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