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I<\/span>n <\/p>Lady Bird<\/span><\/i>, <\/span>Greta Gerwig\u2019<\/span><\/a>s evocative directorial debut, 17-year-old Christine, the film\u2019s eponymous lead faces a peculiar struggle that seems all too familiar. An opinionated high-schooler who goes about figuring ways to leave behind her mediocre life and transform into the person she dreams of becoming in her head, Christine also wallows incessantly in her grand idea of <\/span>romance<\/span><\/a>. <\/span>\n\nChristine, like most of us, isn\u2019t just looking for <\/span>love<\/span><\/a>; she is actively trying to manufacture it. She views \u201cthe idea of someone\u201d as a convenient prop that can metamorphose the aspirations, dreams, and desires marinating in her head into the constraints of reality. For Christine, her idea of someone is tasked with changing her life for the better.<\/span>\n\nChristine isn\u2019t alone in her absolute devotion to this idea of someone. This notion swirling in her head is also not a mere byproduct of the restlessness of adolescence. Most of our r<\/span>omantic encounters<\/span>, at any age, inevitably end up being tainted by the pre-conceived projections this idea of someone lavishly affords us. <\/span>\n\nThe idea of someone comes into our lives when we least expect it; maybe when we come back to an empty house after a long, tiring day. We pour ourselves a glass of wine and settle into bed indulging ourselves in a Game of What If: What if we had someone to come back to? Instead of taking the effort to go through at least 4,83,0753 bad swipe lefts to find the one true swipe right, we conjure up our idea of someone. <\/span>\n

Your idea of someone grants you a love so perfect that it almost seems made up.<\/blockquote>\nFrom that moment on, your idea of someone becomes a double-edged sword. On one hand, it lulls you into a state of comfort when you remain at the pits of <\/span>loneliness<\/span><\/a>, and on the other hand, it\u2019s the very reason for your loneliness in the first place. Because your idea of someone is in many ways, an impossible thing. Your idea of someone grants you a love so perfect that it almost seems made up. <\/span>\n\nYour idea of someone is tall, has the voice of your favourite singer and the body of <\/span>Ryan Gosling <\/span><\/a>from <\/span>Crazy, Stupid, Love<\/span><\/i>. Your idea of someone is a person who is understanding, open to changing himself, and extremely adaptive to your needs in a way that no partner has ever been. Your idea of someone doesn\u2019t peddle jealousy or possessiveness; instead it\u2019s made up of someone who won\u2019t make you feel insecure unlike that guy who educated you in the art of gaslighting. Your idea of someone has a way with words that could put <\/span>Shakespeare<\/span><\/a> to shame, and snatch the <\/span>Nobel Prize<\/span><\/a> right from under <\/span>Ishiguro\u2019s<\/span><\/a> nose. Most importantly, your idea of someone doesn\u2019t snore, ask for <\/span>nudes<\/span><\/a> at inopportune times or disagree with you during arguments. <\/span>\n
Your idea of someone is tall, has the voice of your favourite singer and the body of Ryan Gosling from Crazy, Stupid, Love<\/em><\/blockquote>\nBefore you know it, you\u2019ve fallen head over heels in love with your idea of someone to such an extent that investing your emotions in a living, breathing romantic partner seems almost futile. Day after day, you make a habit out of latching on to the reliable companionship your idea of someone gifts you, until the day you end up meeting a person worthy of being your object of affection. Late-night texts turn to dates, which soon extend to a casual dalliance that over time strengthens its hold over you. At that point, the sole nemesis of your impending long-term relationship won\u2019t be your partner\u2019s loud snores, or that annoying habit of theirs that drives you crazy. Instead, it\u2019ll be your irrationally pampered idea of someone. <\/span>\n\nIn <\/span>Lady Bird<\/span><\/i>, Christine\u2019s \u201csomeone\u201d turns out to be Danny, the lead in the school play in which she serves a minor part. She is enamoured with him for the boundless possibilities of an aspirational future he can offer, which is precisely why she foregoes seeing Danny \u2013 \u00a0who refuses to go beyond kissing and is later caught kissing a boy \u2013 for what he is. For, Christine is way too embroiled in the rewarding idea of Danny to discern that the Danny she ends up with is no good for her. Before it gets too late.<\/span>\n\nJust like Christine, even the best of us choose the deceitful comfort of our idea of someone over compromising it for a romantic partner, who doesn\u2019t even come close to resembling any of the attractive Ryans. In doing so, we unknowingly sound a slowly ticking death knell on our romantic relationships which over time succumbs under the weight of uncontainable resentment. <\/span>\n\nThe person goes. The relationship ends. But, the idea of someone remains. <\/span>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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