By Arré Bench Nov. 26, 2020
Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, has opened up about a miscarriage she suffered earlier this year, in a powerful op-ed for The New York Times, titled “The Losses We Share”. In it, she spoke about the experience of losing the child and also dwelled on how that same sense of loss has felt universal in 2020.
Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, the Duchess and Duke of Sussex, are used to the media attempting to unearth details of their private lives. But Markle has instead chosen to open up about a miscarriage she suffered earlier this year on her own terms, in a powerful op-ed for The New York Times, titled “The Losses We Share”. In it, she shared the experience of losing the child in her womb and also dwelled on how that same sense of loss has felt universal in 2020, against the backdrop of a global pandemic that has claimed hundreds of thousands of lives.
"I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second,” Meghan Markle writes about her miscarriage. Today, we are sharing an essay by the Duchess of Sussex about the loss that she and Prince Harry suffered earlier this year. https://t.co/xCJbgPgufq
— New York Times Opinion (@nytopinion) November 25, 2020
While Markle not only opened up about her own deeply personal loss, she also recognised the wounds that 2020 has left on society, not just through the pandemic but also the deepening divisions between people. In a world of fake news, social unrest, and growing mistrust, Markle points out the dangers of “solitary mourning”, which prompted her to pierce the veil of silence and share her own loss through the essay.
This piece from Meghan Markle isn't just about miscarriage & loss, but is a pretty remarkable call for empathy during a time when it seems lacking https://t.co/D64ftVzNxf
— Jessica Valenti (@JessicaValenti) November 25, 2020
Along with her call for empathy, Markle’s essay is also being lauded for shattering the stigma around miscarriage. For a commonly experienced problem among women, it remains an almost taboo topic. Markle choosing to come forward with her story is a form of catharsis, not only for herself but for the thousands of other women who have gone through a similar experience without somebody to talk to about it.
When I had a miscarriage, I remember scouring the internet for articles by women who had been through the same thing. Because reading that you're not alone is helpful and it's comforting. So thank you to Meghan Markle for writing about something so difficult
— Anita Singh (@anitathetweeter) November 25, 2020
Many people complimented Markle’s bravery for opening up about such a vulnerable topic, especially given the fractious relationship that Prince Harry and she have had with the media since Markle married into the British royal family.
Miscarriages are far too common, heartbreakingly painful and not talked about anywhere near enough. The Duchess of Sussex should be applauded for this. https://t.co/CuyXHQPzu4
— David Hughes (@DavidHughesPA) November 25, 2020
Markle is the latest public figure to share their experience with miscarriage, in a year that has also seen model and television Chrissy Teigen share her own heartbreaking story.
Good on Meghan Markle – speaking out so honestly on a devastating loss too rarely discussed. Helping others who’ve gone through it. Hope she’s ok #miscarriage
— Nikki Gemmell (@NikkiGemmell) November 25, 2020
As more women open up, a change is coming where soon discussions about a problem as widespread as miscarriage no longer make society uncomfortable.