Meghan Markle Speaking of Her Miscarriage is a Huge Step Ahead in a Conversation Hamstrung By Shame


Meghan Markle Speaking of Her Miscarriage is a Huge Step Ahead in a Conversation Hamstrung By Shame

Illustration: Shruti Yatam

Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, the Duchess and Duke of Sussex, are used to the media attempting to unearth details of their private lives. But Markle has instead chosen to open up about a miscarriage she suffered earlier this year on her own terms, in a powerful op-ed for The New York Times, titled “The Losses We Share”. In it, she shared the experience of losing the child in her womb and also dwelled on how that same sense of loss has felt universal in 2020, against the backdrop of a global pandemic that has claimed hundreds of thousands of lives.

While Markle not only opened up about her own deeply personal loss, she also recognised the wounds that 2020 has left on society, not just through the pandemic but also the deepening divisions between people. In a world of fake news, social unrest, and growing mistrust, Markle points out the dangers of “solitary mourning”, which prompted her to pierce the veil of silence and share her own loss through the essay.

Along with her call for empathy, Markle’s essay is also being lauded for shattering the stigma around miscarriage. For a commonly experienced problem among women, it remains an almost taboo topic. Markle choosing to come forward with her story is a form of catharsis, not only for herself but for the thousands of other women who have gone through a similar experience without somebody to talk to about it.

Many people complimented Markle’s bravery for opening up about such a vulnerable topic, especially given the fractious relationship that Prince Harry and she have had with the media since Markle married into the British royal family.

Markle is the latest public figure to share their experience with miscarriage, in a year that has also seen model and television Chrissy Teigen share her own heartbreaking story.

As more women open up, a change is coming where soon discussions about a problem as widespread as miscarriage no longer make society uncomfortable.